But polygamy hasn’t ended
This month’s Ensign contained an article by Elder M. Russell Ballard entitled “Sharing the Gospel With Confidence,”
remarks originally delivered as part of a commencement address at
Brigham Young University on August 13, 2009. In the article, Elder
Ballard had this to say about discussing polygamy:
Our Church members have often allowed others to set the conversational agenda. An example is plural marriage. This ended in the Church as an official practice in 1890. It’s now 2010. Why are we still talking about it? It was a practice. It ended. We moved on. If people ask you about polygamy, just acknowledge that it was once a practice but not now and that people shouldn’t confuse any polygamists with our church. In ordinary conversations, don’t waste time trying to justify the practice of polygamy during Old Testament times or speculating as to why it was practiced for a time in the 19th century. Those may be legitimate topics for historians and scholars, but I think we simply reinforce the stereotypes when we make it a primary topic of conversations about the Church.
Rob Bowman has already done a post listing some of the reasons why polygamy is still fair game,
most of which I would agree with. However, I would say that the number
one reason I still feel polygamy is worth mentioning is because the
church hasn’t stopped
practicing it. According to current church policy, a living man can be
sealed to more than one woman (living or dead) on account of death of or
divorce from earlier wives.1 A
famous example of this is apostle Dallin H. Oaks, whose first wife
passed away in 1998. He re-married in 2000 and has referred to his
second wife as an “eternal companion,”
indicating a sealing to her as well. It seems reasonable to assume that
Elder Oaks expects to be married to both women in the next life.
In
contrast, living women do not have the same options; they cannot be
sealed to more men after the death of or divorce from their previous
husbands.2 Hence modern-day sealing policies mimic the 19th century order of plural marriage.
I
think it’s reasonable to believe that if eternal marriage is true, even
people living in a monogamous society ought to have the option of
spending eternity with all of the spouses they loved. If both living men
and living women could be sealed to multiple people, the sealing
policies might technically still reflect something that could be called
“polygamy,” but Mormons could rightly argue that the intention is to
allow people to spend eternity with all of their loved ones rather than a
theological commitment to the 19th century marriage order. However, so
long as this discrepancy between men and women exists, one cannot avoid
the conclusion that the polygamy that was practiced in the 19th century
continues to be a theological reality for Mormons, a reality that the
church expects to return to in the next life.
I
think there is another reason why evangelicals are going to continue to
bring up polygamy. Mormonism is a system that teaches its members to
look for and question the problems with and theological gaps in
traditional Christianity, for example:
- Why are there no more prophets and apostles among Christians today?
- Why are there so many competing churches and sects?
- Why has there been no new Scripture? Are the heavens closed?
- What happens to people who die without hearing the Gospel?
Those
are all valid questions to ask, and Mormons believe that they have the
answers to them. Mormons have also seen good pay-off from asking these
questions in the number of traditional Christians who have converted to
the LDS church.
In
return though, evangelicals who address Mormonism tend to teach their
audience to question the problems with Mormonism. Polygamy happens to be
a very difficult issue—I would go so far as to say that it’s impossible
to disclose all of the relevant details about polygamy and still craft
its history into a faith-promoting narrative—and it’s a topic that has
proven an effective tool in getting people to question the claims of the
LDS church.
I
wish things weren’t this way. I’d rather the message of Mormonism was
not dependent on foundational challenges to traditional Christianity,
and I’d rather evangelicals did not have to respond in kind.
Sadly, I don’t see an end to it any time soon.
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[1] See the 2006 Church Handbook of Instructions, p. 85.
[2] Ibid. A deceased woman may be sealed to more than one husband; ostensibly this is only so that she can choose which husband to be with, not so that she can live polyandrously in the next life. See p. 86 of the 2006 CHI for policies governing sealings to deceased women.
[2] Ibid. A deceased woman may be sealed to more than one husband; ostensibly this is only so that she can choose which husband to be with, not so that she can live polyandrously in the next life. See p. 86 of the 2006 CHI for policies governing sealings to deceased women.
I have to say that I whole heartedly agree, and this may be the my own personal heresy but I believe that is the actual end goal of the doctrine, I think that the “practice” we have fallen into is the problem with only men being allowed to have multiple sealings. I know of several cases when proxy temple work was being done for a couple only to find out that the women had been married previously married and had previously been sealed to that other husband, in none of the cases has any of the other sealing been “unsealed”. I also think it interesting as my aunt was previously married and sealed, but petitioned SLC for a negation of that sealing before she married my uncle, where it gets interesting is that in her letter that allowed her to be resealed they made a statement that there really is no breaking of seal, but in the case of infidelity of the husband she could be sealed to another; so technically my aunt is sealed to two men.
2. Where most Christians believe we will be with all of our loved ones in Heaven in a sexless state of bliss that transcends human flesh (making marriage irrelevant), Mormons believe in heaven people will (a) have bodies and (b) be shagging with them
3. This makes people incredibly squeamish about the thought of God, multiple spouses, and their granny shagging
4. It also makes for incredibly confusing speculation about the nature of God, gender roles, and the function of marriage in the afterlife
I must apologize for my use of the incorrect term, it has been a long while since I had my sociolgy class, what I was trying to mean by it was that you can not reify our culture onto others, by assuming that they way we view things is the same the world over. All Seth and are trying to say is that assuming that they are as deeply involved in religion as we are here is dangerous assumption to make.
@ Kullervo I am perfectly willing to be surprised, as I like to think myself a hermeneutisist.
they don’t want to stay with Jacob, but otherwise are worthy of Celestial glory?
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